Nov 15, · Positions and ways to stimulate your clitoris “Aye, there’s the rub.” Use your hand, fingers, or a sex toy to slide up and down or back and forth across your clitoris and clitoral virginxx.xyz: Jennifer Chesak. May 18, · With the middle finger on your dominant hand begin circling around the clitoris, but not touching it. Use the smooth pad of your fingertip. Get closer and closer to the clitoris with each circle until you’re rubbing over it. If she responds to clitoris touching you can move on; if she doesn’t, go back to circling around it and try again.